Okay, admittedly, as soon as you read that toilet paper was involved, you probably thought one of three things – What the heck? This sounds interesting. Or, that’s icky. In some part, they are all true. Proceed with caution, and only if you can keep a straight face and are feeling adventurous.
Ideally, your group will be together for an extended period of time, ie at least an hour. This is important because the basic premise of this exercise (you could call it a stunt) relies heavily on the need for people to visit the bathroom or toilet at some point during your program, otherwise, it won’t work.
Start by holding a typical roll of toilet paper in your hand, and unroll a bunch of sheets and then tear it off.
Perhaps during this task explain to your group that, regrettably, you have been informed that the premises has run out of toilet paper, so it is necessary to ration the last remaining roll before new stock arrives.
Try your best to pull a straight face, lest the group cottons on to the fact that you are tricking them. The fact that you have unfurled a handful of sheets will add a little credibility (perhaps) to your story.
Then, hand the roll to the next person and ask them to roll off as much toilet paper as they think they’ll need over the course of the next X hours.
Expect a lot of incredulous looks at this stage, and a few side glances of embarrassment, ie it’s fascinating how much toilet paper some people think they need, or actually use!
Gradually, each person tears off as much toilet paper as they think they will need. Once the roll returns to you, deliver the big reveal.
That is, you must declare that you have told a fib and there is, in fact, no toilet paper shortage. Rather, it was all a sneaky ploy to invite people to share a few things about themselves.
Indeed, instruct each person (in turn around the circle, or randomly when ready) to share one piece of information about themselves for every single sheet (square) of toilet paper they are holding.
There will be cries of disbelief as much as embarrassment for the number of sheets they are now left holding and counting.
That way it ordinarily works, an individual will tear a sheet from the supply they are holding and share a little about themselves, and then tear another sheet and share some more, etc.
When all of the sharing is done, feel free to toss the sheets into the rubbish, or store in one’s pocket for later use. Waste not, want not.
Naturally, if you think or expect that your group will go all weird if they started passing a roll of toilet paper around the group and tearing off sheets, then Bum Steer may not be for them. I say maybe because there are a couple of less-embarrassing options (see Variations tab) you could try that leverage the numbers without the guilt.
On occasions, there will be that one person who thinks that they can “keep it in” and therefore declare that they do not need to tear off any sheets. This may be true, but this is not the point of the exercise. If necessary, employ some further tactics to encourage this person to grab some toilet paper.
For groups that know each other pretty well, narrow the focus of your group’s conversation, eg best holiday you’ve ever taken and why, things you love about where you live, your strengths, etc.
The exercise gets its name from the concept of leading people astray, ie a wrong or bum steer. Which, as described above, is the precise tool I typically employ to introduce the exercise.
Boxes of individual sheets work just as well as the standard roll.
You could integrate Bum Steer as part of a well-designed SEL program to develop your group’s ability to establish and maintain healthy and supportive relationships.
Specifically, this activity offers opportunities to explore and practice the following social & interpersonal skills:
Self-Awareness
- Identifying Personal, Cultural & Linguistic Assets
- Recognising Strengths, Prejudices & Biases
- Demonstrating Self-Confidence, Honesty & Integrity
- Experiencing Self-Efficacy
Social Awareness
- Appreciating Diversity
- Recognising Strengths In Others
- Respecting Others
Relationship Skills
- Communicate & Listen Effectively
- Build Positive Relationships
Responsible Decision-Making
- Promoting Personal & Collective Well-Being
You can learn more about SEL and how it can support character education here.
There is no specific health & wellness perspective to Bum Steer other than promoting the benefits of getting to know others and enjoying a good laugh.
In a small way, you could present this exercise with the view towards exploring and building one’s emotional intelligence insofar as the plethora of responses your group may experience such as surprise, embarrassment, joy, and reluctance.
If you can think of more explicit ways in which Bum Steer could be purposefully integrated into a health and wellness program, please leave a comment at the base of this page.
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