The transference of learning is one of the toughest nuts to crack when it comes to experiential programs.
We are typically very good at reviewing what has been learned at the time our groups are standing before us, but we tend to lose control over the outcomes as soon as they return to their real worlds. Writing a letter to our future self helps to combat this issue.
The concept is simple. This exercise asks participants to write a letter to themselves, to be received sometime into the future. A week, a month, a year, or more. The timing is less important than the impact receiving this letter can have to reinforce and remind a person of something they learned or experienced.
The theory goes, if we can remind our participants of the things that they have committed to while they are with us, and feed it back to them at a later date, these things are more likely to stick with them. This future-dated reflection helps to reinforce learning and the commitments we make to ourselves and our groups.
Here’s what you need to do…
Grab some paper and pens and distribute them to your group. Perhaps you have timed this at a critical juncture in your program, at the end of the day/week/month or some other useful time, eg a particularly challenging time for your group.
Your most important task is to frame the context of this letter powerfully.
You want the content of these letters to resonate with the receivers and to make an impact. Also, the fact that your group knows in advance that they are going to receive these letters helps to build a sense of accountability too.
Here are some possible ways you could frame this letter-writing exercise:
- What is one thing you experienced or learned today that you’d like to remember for many years?
- What do you want to tell or remind your future self in [ enter period of time? ]
- What is one goal you’d like to commit to in the next [ enter period of time ?]
- What are you 100% committed to making happen in the next [ enter period of time ?]
- How would you like to be feeling about yourself in [ enter period of time? ]
- Describe one thing you learned today you want to remember, forever.
- What sort of person would you like to become in [ enter period of time? ]
- What behaviour or action are you committing to get better at?
Allow ample time for reflection, thinking and writing. Discourage the writing of essays, rather encourage concise responses that are kind, generous and future-oriented.
Your options from here are many and varied. My preference is to gather all of these letters and become responsible for returning them to their authors at a pre-defined period of time. To this end, be sure to add this task to your calendar to help you remember.
If you can, invite each person to place this letter into an envelope (you have provided), instruct them to write their postal address on the front, and then store them away until it’s time to post them. In our saturated digital age, it’s really nice to receive an actual hand-written letter.
Now that you understand the basic concept, take a look at the wide variety of alternatives in the Variations tab for further inspiration.
Your framing of this self-reflective exercise will be critical to its success. If your group is not motivated to share useful nuggets of wisdom in their letters, then the exercise will lose its power.
Admittedly, the cost of postage can be quite prohibitive, so you may want or need to build this cost into the overall investment of your program (in advance) if you intend to leverage this reflective tool one or more times.
You could integrate Letter to Self as part of a well-designed SEL program to develop your group’s ability to understand their emotions, thoughts and values and how these influence behaviour in different situations.
Specifically, this activity offers opportunities to explore and practice the following social & interpersonal skills:
Self-Awareness
- Identifying Emotions
- Linking Feelings, Values & Thoughts
- Identifying Personal, Cultural & Linguistic Assets
- Demonstrating Self-Confidence, Honesty & Integrity
- Experiencing Self-Efficacy
- Having A Growth Mindset
Self-Management
- Demonstrating Self-Discipline & Self-Motivation
- Setting Personal & Group Goals
Responsible Decision-Making
- Demonstrating Curiosity & Open-Mindedness
- Identifying Problems
- Making Reasoned Judgements
- Identifying Solutions
- Anticipating & Evaluating the Consequences of One’s Actions
- Promoting Personal & Collective Well-Being
You can learn more about SEL and how it can support character education here.
Resilience
A critical element of developing resilience is becoming self-aware. Writing a letter to oneself can be a wonderfully practical way to embed new practices and behaviours into someone’s life. To this end, consider integrating this activity into your established resilience development programs.
Accountability
Knowing that you are going to receive a letter that says you committed to a particular action or behaviour can be a powerful force to inspire change. This will always work much better than if you just surprise people with the content of their letter at a later date. The letter provides an anchor, so if you say that you are going to do X, Y and Z and you know that at a future date you are going to be asked about your progress, these actions are more likely to happen.
Goal-Setting
Integrating this reflection tool as part of an individual or group’s goal-setting process can be a powerful way to facilitate change and ensure success. Writing goals on paper puts them into existence, which is often more successful than just verbalising them. On its own, this exercise will not ensure success but combined with other appropriate goal-setting frameworks, it is more likely to. For example, at the start of a project or task, ask your group to write themselves a letter about the hopes and dreams they hold for this experience.
In our saturated digital age, it’s really nice to receive an actual hand-written letter. Can you recall the last time you received an actual hand-written letter? If it’s been a long while, then we’re about to change that in this next activity…
One of the most powerful ways to embed learning is to reinforce it, often. It is difficult to learn anything by only being exposed to it once. Most of us need many reminders to help it become a newly embedded skill or knowledge. To help strengthen the learnings we have discussed today, I’m going to ask you to write a letter to yourself that will be held for a month and then sent back to you…
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